Sunday,
20th August 2023. Read Isaiah 56:1,6-7, Ps.
67:2-3,5-6,8, Romans 11:13-15,29-32, Matthew 15:21-28
“Woman, great is your faith! Let it be done for you as you wish.”
And her daughter was healed instantly.” (Matthew 15:28)
Last Sunday, Jesus came to his disciples at the fourth watch of the
night, walking on water. They thought they saw a ghost, but Jesus said: “Take
heart, it is I. Have no fear.” To confirm it, Peter asked that he might walk on
water, but he soon began to sink when he took his gaze away from Jesus. Jesus
said to Peter: “You of little faith, why did you doubt?” (Matthew 14:31-32).
Meanwhile, in today’s gospel passage, Jesus said to the Canaanite woman:
“Woman, great is your faith!” Do we say that what a man cannot do, a woman can
do better? Nevertheless, let us remember that, unlike Peter, this woman had
something at stake – her daughter, tormented by a demon. In The
Canaanite Woman, we learn what it means to be a mother. Like St. Monica, who
prayed relentlessly for her son, Augustine, this woman shows us that being a
mother is loving sacrificially. It is refusing to give up on your children
regardless of how they turn out to be.
Like this Canaanite woman, we have been victims of tough times at some
point. We may be going through very difficult circumstances right now.
Today, we learn that tough times do not last, but tough people do. What does it
mean to be a tough person? Selflessness – living not merely for oneself but for
others. Living above Prejudice - refusing to judge others based on their
origins. Positivity - refusing to take ‘No’ for an answer. Humility – accepting
and taking advantage of whatever insults we receive. Let us not examine some
lessons in today’s readings.
1. Why Does God Allow Tough Times in Our Lives?
Some Christians have asked, “if God is all good, all kind, all loving, why does
he allow his children to go through difficult moments?” To take our minds to
last Sunday’s Gospel passage, Jesus knew what awaited the disciples at sea,
but he sent them on ahead of him. Why? He wanted to test the extent of their
faith. We can only say we have faith if we are tested. Without tough times, we
cannot claim to be people of faith. Secondly, Jesus wanted to teach them. We
learn more from adversity than from leisure. As the saying goes: “Once beaten,
twice shy.”
There is a quotation by Hazrat Inayat Khan which goes thus: “I asked for
strength, and God gave me difficulties to toughen me. I asked for wisdom, and
God gave me problems to learn to solve. I asked for prosperity, and God gave me
a brain and brawn to work. I asked for courage, and God gave me dangers to
overcome. I asked for love, and God gave me people to help. I asked for favours,
and God gave me opportunities. I received nothing I wanted. I received
everything I needed.”
2. In Tough times, Keep Pushing; Pray Until Something Happens
Once, Jesus gave us a parable of a woman demanding justice from
an unjust judge. Like the Canaanite woman in today’s Gospel passage, this woman
never gave up. Jesus concluded: “And will not God grant justice to his chosen
ones who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long in helping them? I tell
you, he will quickly grant justice to them. And yet, when the Son of Man comes,
will he find faith on earth?” (Luke 18:7-8).
This means that God would reward our faith if we persevere in asking,
but this asking must be done with faith, not bitterness. It is one thing to
pray repeatedly but a different thing to display anger towards God for delaying
our requests. The Canaanite woman was not ready to take No for an answer, but
she was not bitter. This woman played along even when Jesus said something that
could be interpreted as insulting.
How do we avoid bitterness when our prayer requests are delayed? St.
Paul says: “Pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances.” (1
Thessalonians 5:17-18). Pray without ceasing. God has no favourites. God is the
father of all. You are not suffering because your sins are greater than those
of others. God allows His rain to fall on the good and bad alike. Isaiah says, “God’s house is a place of prayer for all nations.”
3. Qualities of Tough People - Selflessness
The most outstanding quality of tough people is that they do not live
only for themselves. Selfish people are weak. Since they are only concerned
about themselves, they live in a small world (‘I’, ‘Me’ and ‘myself’).
Since their world is so small, they only see negatives rather than positives.
They have weak faith because they don’t believe they can help others. When they
see people in trouble, they play the ostrich -hide their heads in the sand, hoping the trouble never gets to them.
The Canaanite woman had a large heart. Instead of abandoning her
daughter in her condition, she searched for a solution. Tough people can
survive tough times because they are always trying to help others; they are
always looking for solutions to other people’s problems, and by so doing, they
always discover new ideas, new opportunities and ways to improve their lives.
Isaiah tells us in today’s first reading: “Keep justice and do righteousness” Don’t
be selective of your goodness.
4. Qualities of Tough People – No Prejudice
One evil that has kept our society from making progress is ethnic
bigotry. Many people believe that if someone is not from their tribe or
community, they are good for nothing. Tough people are more concerned about a
person’s potential than their history. The Canaanite woman did not consider that
her people were enemies of the Jews. Recall the statement of the Samaritan
woman to Jesus when He asked her for water: “How is it that you, a Jew, ask a
drink of me, a woman of Samaria?” (John 4:9).
Matthew tells us, “Jesus went away and withdrew to the district of Tyre
and Sidon.” This means that Jesus went there to hide because he simply wanted
to rest. He was not expecting people to recognise Him. Meanwhile, the Canaanite
woman was more concerned about receiving healing for her daughter than maintaining
an age-old communal clash.
Child of God, be wise – do not cheat yourself by refusing to ask for
help from someone just because the person is an enemy of your friend. Treat
people according to who they are, not what you have heard about them. Tough
people are willing to walk into the so-called enemy zone because they know what
they want.
5. Qualities of Tough People – Positivity
Tough people do not take ‘no’ for an answer. They understand that
failure is not a bus stop but a bridge to success. Tough people are like
salespeople; they are always optimistic. No matter how many times you slam the
door on their faces, be sure to find them knocking again with a smile on their
faces. They are like Jacob – they would never let you go unless you bless them.
When you tell them you don’t want to patronise them, they keep the
conversation going until you finally agree to their terms.
The Canaanite woman persisted because she prepared herself ahead for
possible rejection. It was like she was expecting Jesus’ reaction, and her plan
was simple: “I will never give up.” When Jesus did not answer her a word, she
smiled and kept asking. When the disciples asked Jesus to send her away, she
smiled again but did not stop asking. When Jesus said he was sent to the lost
sheep of the house of Israel, she still smiled but never gave up. When Jesus
said children’s bread should not go to dogs, she smiled again and asked for the
crumbs. Tough people always look at the brighter side, knowing their situation
is never beyond remedy.
6. Qualities of Tough People – Humility
Tough people know how to swallow insults. They have such tough skin that
they can make jokes even about themselves. Tough people recognise their
“nothingness”, but instead of feeling inferior, they ask for help. Weak people
are too ashamed to ask for help; their pride keeps them down forever. How can a
man who lacks a secondary school education employ (and control) professors who
have attained the highest possible level in their chosen fields? The answer is
humility.
No wonder, in her song of thanksgiving, Mary tells us that God exults
the lowly and puts down the proud. Show me a man who knows how to remain calm
when humiliated, and I will show you a man whose heart is as tough as steel.
Others may laugh at him, but he knows exactly what he is doing. When
they realise what he planned, he will laugh at them.
Conclusion: Faith is Not Magic
When it comes to faith, there are always obstacles here and there,
discouragement and stumbling blocks, but we must never give up; we must never
say never until it is over - we must pray until something happens (P.U.S.H).
Jesus told us: “Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find; knock,
and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks
finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” (Matthew 7:7-8) but He never
gave us any time frame. Be Patient with God.
Let us pray: Almighty, ever-living God, fill us with the warmth of your love so that
by loving you in all things, we may attain your promises. Through Christ our
Lord. Amen.
Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. God bless
you. (20th Sunday in Ordinary Time. Bible Study: Isaiah 56:1,6-7, Ps.
67:2-3,5-6,8, Romans 11:13-15,29-32, Matthew 15:21-28).
@Rev. Fr. Evaristus E. Abu