BLESSED ARE YOU THIS NEW YEAR. (Homily for New Year Eve Mass, December 31st 2015).


Bible Study: Numbers 6, 22 to 27. Galatians 4, 4 to 7.  Luke 2, 16 to 21.


Good evening my dear brothers and sisters in Christ, let me start by saying HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all. Hope you had a wonderful day and thanks be to God you are ending not just this year but this entire year in the right place – inside the House of God. There is indeed no better way to end the year than to come into God’s presence to say “Thank You.” The year has been a very eventful one, as usual with its own unique ups and downs but the mere fact that you are ending this year alive is enough reason to be Happy and Grateful. And this evening, we are celebrating the solemnity of a woman who remained cheerful and grateful despite the many challenges she had to put up with in taking on the responsibility of being the mother of Jesus.

Leave it or take it, being a mother is not an easy task at all. It takes courage, wisdom and perseverance to bring a child to this world and be there for that child, nurturing, feeding and protecting that child till he becomes somebody in life. This is why I will never stop thanking every successful mother on planet earth. Aren’t mothers blessed? Yes, they are highly blessed.

And in today’s Gospel passage, we are told “She treasured all these things in her heart.” She wasn’t noisy, she wasn’t a gossiping woman, she wasn’t a boastful woman trying to make other women envy her, she wasn’t a nagging and complaining woman either, who tries to make everyone think the burden of the world is on her neck, she just accepted everything gracefully and quietly. She would not open her mouth to speak till the wedding feast at Cana where she begged her son to work his first miracle. And when he agreed to do this, her mouth was shut again till she saw her son been dragged and spat upon like a criminal. This time, she did have the strength to utter a word, her tears and gazes upon Jesus were more than words.

At the beginning of the year like this, the church celebrates the solemnity of Mary thereby committing the entire year to her maternal intercession. As we begin a new year, we ought to emulate the outstanding disposition of Mary. She was told she had a great responsibility to carry and she did not complain, she was waiting for it. All she said was “I am the handmaid of God, let it be done according to God’s will.” That should be our number one statement as we enter 2016. We all have great expectations for this New Year but we do not know how it will turn out to be, so all we can say is “God, we are nothing but pieces of clay in your hands, let 2016 be done according to your will.” This is better than making countless numbers of resolutions that we know we would never keep. And if we must make any resolutions, we must add “according to your will O God.”

Mary accepted the plan of God in her life, she took in the highs and the lows, she was ready for the joys as well as the pains involved. She never gave up but continued to look forward gallantly in hope to that day of her reward when all generations would actually start calling her blessed. I would be a false prophet to say that in 2016, you will never experience any low moments or that you will never shed a tear. I would rather pray for you that like Mary, you may have the courage to see beyond the pains and enjoy the joys that 2016 shall bring. Come to think of it, what would life be if we do not experience tough times at all? Perhaps we would never appreciate the good times when they come.

I pray that in this year, your 6ood times shall be better than your bad times and the joys that those good times would bring will leave you feeling truly grateful, so grateful that when bad times come, you will still have the courage to thank God again and again. This was Mary’s attitude to life and what kept her going, the time she had to carry a pregnancy and face shame since she was not yet married, the time she had to travel all the way with Joseph and suffered being thrown out of inns and hotels to the extent she had to manage the manger and give birth without assistance of proper midwives or experienced doctors, the time she had to escape like a thief in the night with Joseph and tiptoe with the baby all the way to Egypt at a time when there were no cars, trains or private jets, at a time when travelling was so dangerous and roads filled with bandits who could rob and leave their victims for dead, the time she had to suffer humiliation before a twelve year old who instead of apologizing said “Am I not supposed to be in my Father’s house?” In fact, the list is endless…. But who even remembers all that today? In this year 2016, I pray for you that your good days be so many that when it ends, you would barely remember any bad day and by this time next year be so happy about the great year you just had.

Mary is so outstanding today because she knew her role in God’s plan and was willing to obey every detail, every command to the letter. When the Child was born, she gave the very name “Jesus” in obedience to the Angel’s instruction. She knew that through her, God was about to fulfil his promise. As St. Paul say: “At the fullness of time, God sent his son BORN OF A WOMAN born under the law, to redeem those under the law so that we might become Sons of God.” Gal. 4:4ff. And that is what we are. We are no longer slaves, we have received adoption as sons. Abraham, Isaac, Moses, name them, all the people of Old Testament time were simply slaves, they obeyed God not as a matter of choice but as slaves, they had no right to any form of inheritance. God could have decided to keep them out of his kingdom no matter how holy they were. But we, our story is entirely different!

We are sons, we are not slaves, thanks to the Son born of a woman, we have a right to something, the more reason why we must strive to obey God more than our ancestors did. You know the difference between a son and a slave? Both of them eat the same food everyday but while one eats on a golden plate, the other eats only the remnants, while one is only concerned about protecting the house, the other is concerned about his monthly pay, while one obeys the Father’s instruction always out of pure love and knowledge of right and wrong, the other obeys ONLY when people are looking. Do not be surprised that many Christians today live like slaves in God’s house when they should be sons. They obey God only when people are watching, they serve God not for love of God but that they may enter heaven someday, they do not read the bible but are content only with remnants of what they learnt during their days of Sunday school or catechism classes.

I pray for you that this new year, you shall rise to your true position as a Son in God’s house. That you shall possess your possession. That you shall eat no longer remnants but real food from the golden plate. That you shall be well fed , that is, so blessed that you shall be a blessing to the people you will meet throughout this year. I pray that you will no longer be content with living a pretentious life but live out your Christian values, that you will be light in the midst of darkness of sin and evil in our world, that you will obey God out of your heartfelt love of him.

Above all, I pray for you as Moses prayed for the people: “The LORD bless you and keep you! The LORD let his face shine upon you, and be gracious to you! The LORD look upon you kindly and give you peace!” HAPPY NEW YEAR

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, I thank you with all my heart for this New Year. Make it be the best year of my life. Amen.


God bless you. Good evening. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. Happy New Year. Congratulations!

ARE YOU FOR CHRIST OR ANTI-CHRIST? (Homily for December 31st 2015, Seventh day of Christmas).


Bible Study: 1st John 2, 18 to 21. John 1, 1 to 18.


Whenever the word “Antichrist” is mentioned, our minds tend to go directly to the devil but a better understanding of that word is in the context it appears in today’s first reading. The antichrist is not necessary the devil himself but anyone who claims to profess faith in Christ but brings about division and distortion of the truth among Christians.

According to John, “So many antichrists have come; therefore we know that it is the last hour.  They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us; but they went out, that it might be plain that they all are not of us…. I write to you, not because you do not know the truth, but because you know it, and know that no lie is of the truth.” 1 John 2, 18 to 21. 

From what John says, it is either we are Pro-Christ or Anti-Christ. We cannot be the both at the same time. It is either we are promoting Christ by our life or we are giving a wrong message about Christ to the world. In Christ, there is no division, anyone who is championing division is not of Christ.

Jesus himself told us that it is by their fruits that we would know the antichrists. One of the principal characteristic of an antichrist is pretence, he or she appears good outside to attract people but deep within, they are ravenous wolves.

"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorns, or figs from thistles? So, every sound tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears evil fruit. A sound tree cannot bear evil fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will know them by their fruits.”

“Not everyone who says to me, Lord, Lord, shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name? And then will I declare to them, I never knew you; depart from me, you evildoers.” Matthew 7, 15 to 23. 

It is not for us to start trying to identify antichrists among us otherwise that would amount to judging others. And Jesus says: “Remove the log in your own eyes first before ever attempting to remove the speck in your brother’s eye.” Hence, we should rather ask ourselves: “Am I being an antichrist by the way I live out my Christianity?” Am I living in the light or simply pretending?

John says in our Gospel passage: “The true light that enlightens every man was coming into the world. He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world knew him not. He came to his own home, and his own people received him not. But to all who received him, who believed in his name, he gave power to become children of God.” John 1, 9 to 12. Have I fully received Christ? Is my greatest aspiration simply to live out the ideals of my Christian faith? Do I believe that God’s commandments are also meant for me to follow or do I see them as instructions meant only for “holy people”?

As a child of God, what are my New Year resolutions? 

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, may I not become an antichrist by the way and manner I live my Christianity. Amen.


God bless you. Good Morning. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. Happy last day of the year 2015. Congratulations, You Made it!

IS LOVE SUPPOSED TO BE WICKED? (Homily for December 30TH 2015, Sixth day of Christmas).


Bible Study: 1st John 2, 12 to 17. Luke 2, 36 to 40.


There is song by Brick and Lace with the title “Love is wicked.” I had to study the lyrics myself to find out what why these ladies would arrive as such a conclusion. According to them:

Running around I Can't Get Through My Day.
Thoughts of You Just Keep Consuming Me.
I Thought I Could Do It But Now I See.
That You're Not Mine, And I Was Wrong To Think You'd Change.

I Wish You Could Stay With Me Another Day.
I Wish I Could Change Your Mind And Make You Stay.
I I'd Give Anything To Hear You Say.
I'll Be Lovin You Eternally.

Tears on Ma Pillow because your Love Is Wicked.
Cry Me a River cause your Love Is Wicked...
Can't Sleep At All because your Love Is Wicked.
Pain In My Heart because your Love Is Wicked.

I Loved You From The Very Start.
Even Though I Knew That You Would Break My Heart
And I, Couldn't Resist …
Was I, A Fool, To Think I'd pay nothing? …

Anybody Have A Remedy Or A Cure?
Someone Call De Doctor Or Emergency Crew…

Brick and Lace asked a question and they ended the song without answering it. “Anybody have a remedy or a cure?” Surprisingly, no musician has ever answered it but our readings today contain the answer. The only remedy or cure for this kind of “wickedness” is NOT TO FALL IN LOVE WRONGLY. And mind you, it is not just about falling in love with the wrong person, we can also fall in love with the wrong object, place or reality.

In fact, John hits the nail on the head when he said: “Do not love the world or the things in the world. The love of the Father is not in those who love the world; for all that is in the world-- the desire of the flesh, the desire of the eyes, the pride in riches-- comes not from the Father but from the world. And the world and its desire are passing away, but those who do the will of God live forever.” 1 John 2, 15 to 17. 

How can we who were made to last forever by a God who lives forever stoop so low as to fall in love with things that do not last forever? How come we do not realise that we are only setting up ourselves for eternal pain when we give our heart to passing things? Imagine this line of the song, “I loved you from the very start even though I knew you would break my heart and I couldn’t resist, was I a fool?” Is the answer not obvious? Yes. I am a fool if I allow myself fall in love with something (someone) that would eventually break me to pieces or perhaps send me to hell in the long run.

So, the question now is: “How do we bring it down, how can we stop hurting ourselves with wrong loves?” The solution is to allow the love you have for God become greater than anything else in the world. The only way to escape being consumed by wrong loving is to put God first and love him with a higher degree of love than any created thing on earth. If we love God as we should, then we would no longer be attached to anything else. We would have a somewhat carefree attitude to things, and we would find it easy to let go when these things are trying to become obstacles on our way in serving God. If we love God as we should, then we would obey his voice before that of any human being, we would go to any extent to please God even if it means paying the ultimate sacrifice of our very lives.

The truth is that, the precept of loving God above everything else is not just one fanciful idea, it is pure wisdom. Jesus himself asked: “For what does it profit a man, to gain the whole world and forfeit his life?” Mark 8, 36. What is the point killing ourselves over things that are not essential to our real life which is heaven? Why all these sleepless nights? Why all these hassling and bustling? Why are we trying to make money by all means to the extent that money itself become the god we serve? When money calls, we answer, when it gives instructions, we obey, when money says ‘be there by 9am’, we even get there by 8.30am. But when God says: ‘be in church by 10am’, we start leaving the house by 10.30am. When God says, ‘do not steal, do not commit adultery, do not bear false witness’ etc., we bluntly disobey.

Dear friends, love doesn’t have to be wicked if we love right. God alone deserves our love. See how Anna, the prophetess because of her love for God spent her entire life in the temple serving God night and day from the days of her youth till she was eighty four. God rewarded her by allowing her see Jesus and she was just at the right place and at the right time to praise God in confirmation that the baby Jesus was no ordinary child.    

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, may my love for the world never rise above or come in between my love for you. Help me to put you first and value you more than anything else on earth. Save me from unnecessary pain and regret as a result of wrong loving. Amen.


God bless you. Good Morning. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. 

TAKING CHRISTMAS HOME. (Homily for December 29TH 2015, Fifth day of Christmas).


Bible Study: 1st John 2, 3 to 11. Luke 2, 22 to 35.
 
All over the world, we have this culture of “take-away” after every party or get-together we attend. In fact, one can say that a party is not complete if there is nothing to take home at the end of the day. When people plan for parties, the first thing they think of is: “What souvenir are the guests to take home with them?” Someone once told me of how he attended an event and all the guests were told to go home with the very chair on which they were sitting. In Nigeria, for instance, some even go as far as giving away phones, ipads, laptops and other luxurious items as souvenirs.

And trust people now, we always know how to make ways where there seem to be no way, I mean, souvenir or no souvenir, we always find something to take home with us. Mind you, it is not as if we do not have an abundance of such items at home, it is just that the FUN of the party is not complete without something with which to remember it again. At times, it is funny how people rise out nylon bags, (I mean fine coloured polythene bags) from nowhere, all of a sudden towards the end of the event. The idea is that whatever is left unconsumed on the table must go with the guests since the host will not be happy to see that items he or she bought for the event are retuned. Isn’t it?

Now, having celebrated Christmas, what souvenir are we taking home with us? What is it that we have to take out of our celebration home and into our very lives which would not only remind us of Christmas but allow the Christmas event to become a permanent part of our biography?

The answer lies in today’s first reading and according to John, the only proof we have to show that we believe that Jesus was born on Christmas Day and that we really know him is KEEPING HIS COMMANDMENTS. “Beloved, by this we may be sure that we know Jesus Christ, if we keep his commandments…by this we may be sure that we are in him; he who says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked…he who says he is in the light and hates his brother is in the darkness still…”

What other way can we show those who did not attend the party that they missed something? How can we let the rest of the world who do not believe that we celebrated Christmas? If our lives do not reflect that of Christ, if people do not see divine goodness in us, if we do not keep his commandments, we are walking in darkness and indirectly we are showing to the world that Christ was just a fairy tale. The souvenir that Christmas gives to us, or to put it this way, the “toothpick” of the party is OBEDIENCE TO GOD’S COMMANDMENTS, which is another way of saying WALKING IN THE LIGHT and living solely to LOVE GOD ABOVE ALL ELSE AND LOVE OUR NEIGHBOURS AS OURSELVES.  

We see this same OBEDIENCE in the Gospel passage when Joseph and Mary following the custom of the time brought the child Jesus to the temple to consecrate him to God. By this time, Joseph and Mary already knew that their child was no ordinary creature, they knew they were carrying God. With the visit of the Angel to Mary and the visit of the appearance of the Angel to Joseph in his dream, both Mary and Joseph knew that this child was different and special. Yet they brought him to the temple to do for him exactly what the law required. And by “law” here, we are referring to the Old Testament.

How obedient are we to the precepts of the Bible? Do we sometimes feel that we are exempted from obeying certain commandments of God because of the position we occupy? Do we give excuses to God for not living according to his laws?

“And his father and mother marvelled at what was said about him.” They did not utter a word. They simply looked, smiled and pondered within them. They had done what they were told to do and what was left was to watch and see. When we take our Christmas souvenir home, when we live out the commandments of God, he has many things in place for us and we would join Mary and Joseph to sing: “He has done marvellous things for me, Almighty God, he is used to doing wonderful things for me.”

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, may the celebration of Christmas not end with eating and drinking for me, but may I take home with me, the true spirit of Christmas that my life may reflect the light of the new born baby Jesus. Amen.


God bless you. Good Morning. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. 

WHERE IS GOD WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN? (Homily for December 28TH 2015, Feast of the Holy Innocents).


Bible Study: 1st John 1, 5 to 2, 2. Matthew 2, 13 to 18.


Today we celebrate a rather painful episode of the Christmas story; the great massacre of innocent children by King Herod. Today’s feast calls to mind a lot of questions about God and why he sometimes allows bad people to do certain things. Our questions no matter how many can be summed up in one: “Where is God when bad things happen?” And when we talk of bad things, we mean really really bad things such as the death of hundreds of innocent children.

Looking at the story again and again, one thing is obvious, that God knew beforehand what Herod was planning to do. He was the one who told the Wise Men through an angel not to return to Herod but to go home through another route. He was the one who also warned Joseph through an angel to rise and escape with the baby Jesus in the middle of the night. But then, he did not send an angel to appear to Herod warning him not to kill these innocent children. When Joseph was planning to do divorce Mary, God sent an angel in a dream to stop his plan but God allowed Herod to proceed with his evil plan.

That bad things happen to good and innocent persons should not make us lose faith in God or assume that he does not care or that he is powerless. God is there, he sees everything, he knows everything and he has never stopped being God. There is absolutely nothing impossible for God to do and he has the power to stop all the evil going on in the world. All he demands from us especially when things get really rough with us is TRUST. Trust that he is still there, trust that he still loves us and cares for us even when we have to go through fire.

The kind of trust God desires from us is an absolute trust. One that does not depend on whether or not things go well for us. This trust is different from that we bestow on fellow human beings. For instance, if your friend refuses to show up when things are bad for you or let’s say, you get to discover that your friend was aware of an evil plot against you but refused to warn you beforehand, you may stop seeing that person as your friend. Isn’t it? That may be the end of your relationship because you will feel betrayed and you will never draw that person close anymore. God does not want us to treat him like we do our fellow human beings. He wants all of our trust, he wants us to worship him not because of the good things he gives to us but simply because he is God. Our relationship with God should not depend on what we stand to gain, or the extent to which our prayers are answered, or the fact that bad things don’t happen to us.

On the other hand, let us put ourselves in the shoes of Herod and try to find out what let him to this disastrous act. What Herod did to be honest is not different from what you and I may do if we find ourselves threatened. If you hear for instance that somebody is coming to take over your position as the Managing Director of a multi-national company for instance, would you just sit there and fold your hands? If as a wife, you see that your husband begins to give too much attention to another lady outside the house, would you sit there and fold your hands? If you were told that everything you have worked for and all that your family possesses which you have inherited would be taken away from you and given to somebody else, would you do nothing?

At times, we pray the worst prayers over the people who seem to threaten our position, our wealth, our children or our most precious possessions. Little do we realise that each time, we are trying to fight our so called “enemy”, each time we send arrows to them, to prevent them from ever succeeding, We are simply being Herods. I am sure if you ask Herod, he would tell you, he didn’t do anything wrong. He would tell you that he acted in self-defence. He would even quote instances when countries go to war with other countries just because they feel that those other countries possess or intend to possess certain arms that may be of threat to them later on. So for Herod, the killing of the innocent children was an act of war, a means of protection against the possibility of another king rising over a territory which was rightfully his.  

Haven’t we killed so many innocent people with our lips by speaking ill of them simply because they were a threat to us?

This is why our first reading this morning from the letter of St. John says: “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.” 1 John 1, 8 to 10.

Today is not a day to feel hatred for Herod over what he did, neither is it a day to recount the people who have committed similar atrocities against their fellow man. It is not a day to ask God why he allows bad things happen. Today is a day for us to look inwards and ask ourselves how well we have fed the Herod that is in us. Today is a day for us to examine ourselves and recount bad things we may have done to people to the extent that even our victims had to cry to God to also ask him why he allowed us do such evil things to them.

Today is a day for us to examine our fears and ask ourselves what is it that we are trying to hold on to. That is, what are we afraid of losing for which we are prepared to kill? What is it that we have become so attached to that we would rather slaughter a hundred persons that give such away? Did we bring anything to this life? Are we going to take anything with us when we die? So why are we so scared of losing the things that we must lose eventually? Did Herod not eventually die and leave the throne for another person? Was he thinking that by killing the innocent children, he would reign for ever? Does he know whether the throne went to his son or someone else?

Imagine, despite his “successful” campaign to stop another king from growing in his kingdom, did Jesus not eventually become a King? There is something about destiny and competition. At times, we engage in very useless competition with people forgetting that who God has said he will be, he must be. We try to stop people from outshining us and we waste a lot of time and energy, we even have sleepless nights just to prevent others from overtaking us, yet after everything, we cannot stop the will of God from happening. A little boy you brought up may eventually become your master tomorrow and if that is how God want it, there is nothing you can do about it. Your driver, your house-help, that “useless thing” may eventually become your saviour tomorrow so why being a Herod today.

I have so much to say but I will have to stop here so the homily does not become too long. Dear friends, let us cast away our fears and live by the Golden rule. Never do to anyone what you do not want done to you.

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, teach me to trust you even thing are hard. Amen. In a special way, I pray for the repose of the twenty two children who died in a ghastly motor accident on their way to attend my diaconate ordination on December 17, 2011. These were innocent children who wanted to see for the first time how people are ordained, they did not attend the ceremony physically but were there in spirit. Have mercy on them and grant them a place in your kingdom O Lord. Amen.


God bless you. Good Morning. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. Happy new week.

CHRISTMAS, A TIME FOR FAMILY. (Homily for December 27TH 2015, Feast of the Holy Family).


Bible Study: 1st Samuel 1, 20 to 28. 1st John 3, 1 to 2 and 21 to 24. Luke 2, 41 to 52.


At the heart of the Christmas celebration is the fact that God, through the incarnation of his Son Jesus Christ has come to be part of the human family thereby sanctifying the institution of the family and showing us how we should live. From the very beginning of creation, it was the will of God that man should live as family and not as isolated lonely individuals. No one can function to his or her fullest capacity without a family and so, an attack on the family is an attack on humanity itself. If we stop seeing ourselves as family, meant for each other, even as a church, then we are bound to face a lot of crises. More still, the fact that God himself has been born and raised in a human family shows that the success of any family depends largely on how well they place God as the centre of their lives.

Take a look at the picture of the Holy Family. Do you notice that Jesus Christ is at the middle of Mary and Joseph? What does this say to you? That for any family to survive, God must be at the middle. Take God away and the family falls apart. To be holy as a family is to set apart from other families, to be holy is to be different, to be holy is to be unique and God alone makes a family different. So, if we want our families to be holy, if all we want is to hear good things about our family, then we must put God at the very centre of our family.

Sing: “My life time…. My family….

In our Gospel passage this morning, we read about how Joseph and Mary “forgot” to take Jesus with them when they were on their way home. They had to go through the hurdle of making a three days temple back to the temple to look for him. At times, as families, we do not remember to bring Jesus with us. We try to move on with our lives without the rhythm of daily prayers, we assume that things are fine and that money answereth all things such that we can afford to simply come home to sleep and rush back to work again since work provides us all the money we need for survival. Joseph and Mary had not gotten home yet when they noticed Jesus was missing, they refused to enter their house till they were re-united with Jesus. The question for us today is: “Is Jesus missing from my family?” or put it this way “How often do we talk to Jesus, listen to him, play with him, worship him and allow him guide us as a family?” A family that does not pray together cannot stay together. If truly Jesus is missing from your home, then no need going home. Home is supposed to be a place of peace but when a home lacks Jesus, the Prince of Peace, then that home become a place of restlessness, endless trouble and scatter scatter.

Sing: “When Jesus is in the family…
  
In our first reading, we read the story of Hannah who was childless and suffered ridicule as a result. The fact that we do not have children should not make us panic, depressed or angry at our spouses instead it should make us humble and draw us closer to God as the giver of children. It was with tears that Hannah came to the temple to pray for a child, she did not go about visiting native doctors, spiritualists or demonic forces, she came straight to God and opened her heart to him in prayer. During this season of Christmas, we saw how God made a virgin become instantly pregnant, we also saw how a couple of over 80 years gave birth to a child. What does this tell you? That it is not what you possess in your body that produces children. It is God who gives children. As parents, we must learn to accept ourselves as care-takers rather than owners of our children. A child is a responsibility God entrusts in your hands and that is why he would ask for an account of how you raised your children on the day of judgement.

The Bible says: “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he grows, he will never depart from it.” As a holy Family, you must not leave the training of your children for school teachers alone, you must learn to apply discipline where necessary and let love by your ultimate motivation. Failure to correct a child when he or she errs will amount to leading that child astray. On the other hand, Children must learn to respect and honour their parents. As we saw in the Gospel passage, when Joseph and Mary eventually found Jesus, they took him home and “he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them.” If God himself was obedient as a child, then who are you to be stubborn towards your parents?

Remember the fourth commandment which states: “Honour your father and mother so that your days would be long.” The book of Sirach further clarifies this command when it states: Those who honour their father atone for sins, and those who respect their mother are like those who lay up treasure. Those who honour their father will have joy in their own children, and when they pray they will be heard. Those who respect their father will have long life, and those who honour their mother obey the Lord; they will serve their parents as their masters. Honour your father by word and deed, that his blessing may come upon you. For a father's blessing strengthens the houses of the children, but a mother's curse uproots their foundations… My child, help your father in his old age, and do not grieve him as long as he lives; even if his mind fails, be patient with him; because you have all your faculties do not despise him. For kindness to a father will not be forgotten, and will be credited to you against your sins; in the day of your distress it will be remembered in your favour; like frost in fair weather, your sins will melt away. Whoever forsakes a father is like a blasphemer, and whoever angers a mother is cursed by the Lord. My child, perform your tasks with humility; then you will be loved by those whom God accepts. Sirach 3, 3 to 17. 

As much as children are encouraged to respect their parents, wives and husbands should also respect each other. On the day of your marriage, you said certain words that created a permanent bond between the both of you. You are no longer two separate individuals but one person. The success of any marriage depends on how well couples remain conscious that they are no longer two individuals but one person. So I ask? “Can you quarrel with yourself? Can you deliberately do things to annoy yourself? Can you decide to insult yourself or use words against yourself? Your spouse is not somebody away from you. He or she is part of you. So whatever good you desire for yourself, give it to your spouse. Since you cannot offend yourself, then don’t offend your spouse. If you like the best things in life for yourself, then let your spouse enjoy them as well because when your spouse is happy, then and then only can you be happy but if he or she is not happy, then you cannot possibly be happy.

Be sensitive to the needs of your spouse, make efforts to understand and study each other. When couples try to find happiness away from their spouse, it always leads to further pain, regret and sorrow. If at any point in time, you are not happy, then try making your spouse happy and you will surprised at the way your own happiness will return. This is a secret and it works all the time, it works because from the day of your marriage, you became one person. Talking rudely to your spouse is like hitting your own head on the wall, raising your voice or keeping malice with your spouse is like pouring hot oil on your body. Being unfaithful to your spouse is like trying to take a gift from the devil himself, you will never be happy or satisfied.

St. Paul said it all in Ephesians 5, 28 to 33: “… husbands should love their wives as they do their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, because we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." … Each of you, however, should love his wife as himself, and a wife should respect her husband.

Above all as our second reading tells us today, as a church, we should see ourselves as one big family. There should be no tribal, racial or ethnic division among us. We are all children of God. We are not Nigerians, we are not Biafrians, we are not Edos, we are not Afemais, we are not yorubas, what then are we? We are Christians!

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, make my family holy as your own family is holy. Amen.


God bless you. Good Morning. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. Happy Sunday.

CHRISTMAS, A TIME TO LOVE AND LOVE EVEN YOUR ENEMIES. (Homily for December 26TH 2015, Feast of St. Stephen).


Bible Study: Acts 6, 8 to 10 and 7, 54 to 59. Matthew 10, 17 to 22.


The beauty of the Christmas holiday is that it affords us the opportunity to gather around those we love especially our family members and close relatives. This is why there is usually a lot of travelling this period. Since work and study may have kept family members apart, Christmas affords the opportunity to take a break from the pursuit of money to reawaken our love for and with the persons who matter most to us.

Even with the giving and receiving of Christmas gifts, we get to feel love and know those who truly care about us. Gifts may have come in different shapes and sizes but no matter the actual content, every gift says: “I love you, you are important to me and I have been thinking of you.”

During the Christmas season, we also have a beautiful tradition of sending text messages, beautiful messages that convey not just our understanding of the meaning of Christmas but the fact that we wish the best for the people that matter most to us. Personally, I received so many text messages yesterday even from contacts I had almost forgotten I still had in my phone thereby recalling certain wonderful memories. This is what makes Christmas really sweet and enjoyable.

Then all of a sudden, just a day after Christmas, when we are yet to wake from the euphoria of getting and receiving love, the Church says today is feast of St. Stephen, the first martyr. What connection does Stephen have with Christmas? Wasn’t he killed after Easter? So why are we celebrating his feast a day after Jesus’ birthday? The answer to these questions lies in the opening prayer of today’s mass which says:

“Grant Lord, we pray, that we may imitate what we worship, and so learn to love even our enemies, for we celebrate the heavenly birthday of a man who knew how to pray even for his persecutors…” This prayer gives us another dimension to the whole message of Christmas. And it reminds us of the fact that if we love only those who love us, then we are not doing anything special. Rather, as Jesus himself said in Matthew 5, 44 to 48:

“Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be children of your Father in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the righteous and on the unrighteous. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers and sisters, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

Christmas happened because God is perfect. In his perfection, he gave us (that is, we, who were sinners by every standard, and his enemies, in fact) the perfect gift of all. The gift of his Son and he gave us this gift not just for the fun of it, but that this gift should die for us. As St. Paul acknowledges in Romans 5, 8: “But God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us.” This is why today happens to be the best time for us to reflect about St. Stephen the martyr. In his life, we see an imitation of God’s love for humanity that made Christmas possible. By praying for his persecutors instead of cursing them in revenge, Stephen personifies what our love for one another should be like, following the example of God’s love for us, in the act of sending Jesus to be born in our midst.

So in the spirit of sharing and receiving love, let us direct our attention today to persons who do not deserve even the thinnest bit of our love and goodwill. Let us also show them that we care about them, that we care about their salvation. If we have given gifts and sent beautiful love messages to those we appreciate yesterday, let us now look for gifts and compose even greater messages for those we regard as our enemies.

It is not possible for everybody to like you no matter how good you are but keep being good. There will surely be persons who will hate you even for the good that you are doing but as Jesus said in our Gospel passage this morning: “DO NOT WORRY about how you are to speak or what you are to say; for what you are to say will be given to you at that time; for it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you. Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child, and children will rise against parents and have them put to death; and you will be hated by all because of my name. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.” Matthew 10, 19 to 22.

This is exactly what played out in the life of Stephen. He knew people were jealous of him but he did not allow his spirit to be dampened, he did not try to hide his spiritual talent or become timid. We are told that he was “full of grace and power and did great wonders and signs among the people.” Whatever be your gift, use it to the full. Surely there will be people who will try to pull you down but do not worry. Do not even pray for the death of such persons, instead love them as Stephen did who prayed for his enemies as he breathed his last.

Let us Pray:
Lord Jesus, teach me to love as you yourself loved me by leaving you glory be born as man despite the enmity caused by my sinfulness. Amen.


God bless you. Good Morning. Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. Happy Christmas